Tuesday, 29 July 2008
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Chasin' Skantz (skirts and pantz)
Who ought to do the chasin'?
Lots of women take the feminist/"modern"-woman perspective and say that women ought to do the asking out and the pursuing. It's 2008, doggone it. And some men have actually jumped on the train and agreed (probably because it means less work for them).
On the other hand, you have women who sometimes get up the guts to do the asking, but really secretly prefer if men do it. And you have some men in the same boat, with the glove on the other foot.
On still another hand (why are there three hands? I don't know), you have the traditional gals like myself who think that if a guy isn't man enough to ask me, he's not man enough to date me. (Harsh? Yes. True? Yes.)
I believe (and have been told) that men feel more like men when they can do the pursuing and take the intiative. They don't like their women to be too powerful or ambitious (-minded) not because they want to keep us down, but because they want to feel needed, and they feel needed when they are protecting and providing. I also have it on good authority (being a woman myself) that although many of us are now willing to take on roles and responsibilities previously held solely by men (paying for dates, opening our own doors, being the breadwinner, doing the asking), we actually, secretly, deep down, like it best when chivalry reigns supreme (I'm exaggerating slightly because it sounds more poetic that way).
Who's right?
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Comments (3)
Both should chase, both should pursue, both should want the relationship, it'll have a higher chance of succeeding that way.Â
Haha...we posted a similar blog. I think it depends on the person, but I believe both should be allowed to chase and women shouldn't feel guilty if they want to do the chasing. Not that women should only do the chasing, but sometimes you have to go after something if u really want it. Some guys are shy, and they may appreciate if a women takes the iniative.
@itiscomplicated - It sure does!
@melsie - It's true, you should go after what you want in life. I'm just too old school for that, I guess. As for shy guys appreciating the woman taking initiative, I think I'm just not into shy guys. That's probably what it is.
You know what the funny thing is though, too? Sometimes if I want something (or, more often, someone!!) bad enough he comes to me without me actually doing anything (this has happened to me multiple times!). Maybe I'm a romantic jedi...