It's really annoying.
So the title doesn't actually mean anything, except that this post is about texting.
I was reading a post by hopelessromantic earlier, that reminded me just how much it annoys me when people text at times that they really ought to call.
Personally, I love texting. I actually had to increase my plan because I kept going over. It's an easy way to say something short and sweet, or communicate with someone when you can't call them, or stay awake in a boring class
My freshman year, I had a guy "friend" who would text me all the time (so much so that it cost me more than $10 in overages). At first I thought it was cute, but then I realized that he was texting me
in place of actually talking to me. He would ask me really inappropriate or personal questions, invite me over, tell me how he felt about me...all in text messages. He actually refused to say these things over the phone or in person. At first I was like um...this is odd...but after a while I just felt disrespected. Later on I realized that even though he was three years older than me, he was kind of immature and more than kind of a jerk.
It's okay to text me and say "Meet me there at 7" or "You look really nice today" (I loved that one
) or "I just saw a (insert hilarious inside joke here)" or "I'm thinkin' Arby's". But some things need to be actually, physically, orally, spoken. Things like "I like you" or "I love you" (especially the first time you say them) and "I'm sorry" and "Will you go out with me?" are some of those things.
What do you think? Have you ever had a friend or "friend" so text-dependent/addicted that you hardly spoke?
Comments (9)
YES! Thank you for posting this--I myself was wondering about these questions. I have one friend who has NO problem whatsoever talking to our other guy friends. However, ONLY with me, he will text message me at least ten to twenty times rather than call me up to speak to me in person. And by text messages, I mean that he will send me ten looong text messages at a time RATHER than press a few buttons to speak to me in person. Someone once told me that males feel uncomfortable speaking to any female over the phone, but I'm not quite sure...
To be honest, it makes me feel as if there is something wrong with me. I'm not obnoxious over the phone, and my friend and I get along well. Why are males comfortable talking to other males on the phone, and not with females? It makes me feel so inadequate!
Once, I told a guy I'd go out with him over text. Weird. It was a weird relationship. So yeah, I know what you're saying. Spoken words are always better =)
Most of my "friends" only text. Then again I don't have that phone conversation for hours type of personality. But if it was for certain things like saying I miss you and how was your day.... I would believe that would be better to hear over the phone then through a text. I knew texting was going overboard when my phone company sent me a "Happy Anniversary" text for making my first year in my two year contract with them. lol how crazy is that?
@the_bonsai_tree@xanga - You're welcome! Isn't it strange? I met a guy this summer who did the same thing--he'd text me like 30 times in the same 15 minutes but when I suggested we talk verbally instead of wasting so many text messages he actually refused to call, saying he'd rather continue the conversation in person. I was like, what's so wrong with talking on the phone? I'd rather you do that (especially since it's Saturday and the minutes are free!) than run up my texting bill, especially since he wasted messages. He'd say "yeah" "okay" "I got you" "that's cool" and "uh huh", ALL in separate messages. I'm like um...highly unnecessary. Thanks for the comment!
@itiscomplicated - Thanks for the comment! Did he ask you out in a text too? Or did he ask you out some other way and you just responded in a text?
@Happybunni21 - Thanks for the comment! You get texts like that from your phone company? That strikes me as odd. I actually don't mind getting "I miss you" texts, though I like hearing it in person better. It's those questions that get me, like "how was your day?" because then, since it's your "friend" you actually have to give a real answer, and real answers tend to use up a lot more characters.
@uwrote - Hi, U! Welcome to text-hex rehab!
I hope our comments improve your love life somewhat 
They say old habits die hard, so I'm sure it will be a hard one to break for you--and that's fine. You may even get lucky enough to find a woman who is a serial texter as well! I love texting also; I just feel more valued when "he" talks to me about serious, important stuff in person. Thanks for the comment!
@LaBellaMorena - lol! worse still. He said, asked over IM and I answered over text. I was such a dork. lol.
@itiscomplicated - I think that might put you both in the dork category.
@LaBellaMorena - =P