Seems like everyone's talking about this whole communication issue.
With my lg, we had the most difficulty communicating when one of us wanted something. As a teacher, I spend an inordinate amount of time reminding little people to say things like "please" and "thank you", and it frustrated me to no end that he wasn't very good at either of those things. It was almost like when he wanted something, he regressed into some combination of modern man and neanderthal. I asked him to ask me nicely, and for some reason, he didn't understand what that meant. I really hated that.
But at the same time, I wasn't the best communicator either. When I wanted him to change something, I was sometimes passive-aggressive and would just make indirect comments about it until he figured out that I didn't like it, and changed it. Other times, I'd just say, "You know, I really hate that." In those cases, he might change it, and he might not. Other times, I'd say, "I really love it when you...", which seemed to be most effective of all. I tried the direct route as often as I could, but it's really hard! You really can't say what you're thinking all the time. And sometimes I'd just fall back into my passive-aggressive ways.
What communication pitfalls have you hit in your relationships?
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