So I was looking in the mirror today, as I often do, and I wondered to myself, how will my future guy feel about my flaws?
There are a lot of quotes on fmylife (a funny website, but sometimes just shocking to me how mean people can be!) where people make negative comments about others' appearance. And it got me to wondering about flaws in the context of relationships. Obviously dumping someone because of a relatively minor physical flaw would be incredibly shallow. But after looking at someone for a number of months or years, you obviously notice the size of their ears or their skin problems or acne or scars or pigeon-toed-ness or whatever. How do guys feel about my flaws? Do they really not care? Or do they just not mind them?
I dated this one guy on and off for about a year and a half, who had a birthmark that covered approximately half his face. He was rather dark-skinned, so it wasn't really noticeable unless you were up-close and really looking at him. It actually somehow caused him to have a blue ring around the iris in one eye, so his eyes were effectively two different colors. And you know what? I found it endearing. I liked it because I liked him, and it was part of him. It made him who he was, and it added to the goofy quirkiness that I liked about him. But then again, by the time I came to this realization, it had been more than a year.
Do your SO's physical flaws bother you? Do you really not notice them? Do you pretend not to notice them? Do you just ignore them? Or do you find them endearing?
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My SO doesn't like to smile. I like guys who smile but I still went for him. But he'll smile if I asked him to "smile for me". Sometimes, not all the time, and it was usually only for a couple seconds.